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Relationships
are hard work. They
can be stressful.
They also have the
potential to bring
us deep joy and
satisfaction. But
getting to that
part is often a
journey through
hardship and stress.
Who has not been
knocked off balance
by relational struggles?
Who has not been
surprised by the
amount of pain that
can come from relational
wounds?
This
book is about overcoming
relational stress—surviving
and thriving. As
I read the manuscript,
it occurred to me
that in relationships,
we often feel pounced
upon in unsuspecting
moments. These assaults
can weigh heavily
and destabilize
us. Although we
long for deliverance
from the pain, our
spirit has become
vulnerable to the
loss of hope. Even
if we are to manage
through the relational
difficulties, many
of us would like
to register a complaint
to God about the
madness of relationships.
This
book is a testament
to the fact that
it is possible to
be resilient and
thrive in our relationships.
And this book will
help you discover
how. Gerry contends
that all relationships
get stuck in crazy
cycles at times,
and he uses three
common stress roles
to illustrate this:
the rescuer, the
victim, and the
persecutor. The
second and third
sections of the
book—the remedy—are
where Gerry’s
genius shines brightest.
It is filled with
thoughtful and enlightening
material.
Gerry
is a good storyteller.
By weaving together
the voices and anecdotes
of his life with
exercises, diagrams,
and principl0es,
he has created a
book with something
of value for everyone—whether
in crisis or not.
If you are interested
in enhancing the
strength and beauty
of your relationships,
this will help.
His message is based
on solid social
science research
without the technical
jargon. It is written
with sincerity and
simplicity. Even
the most career-driven
individuals will
be passionate about
improving their
personal relationships
after reading this
book.
I
know Gerry well.
He knows what he
writes about from
personal experience.
He has survived
and thrived. He
has encountered
relational challenges
and endured with
honor. He can even
grin as he recounts
some of the trials.
He
also knows what
he writes about
from professional
experience. He has
walked many other
people through their
relational stressors,
helping them come
out the other side,
not only as survivors,
but also as thrivers.
No wonder so many
people invite Gerry
into their lives.
He can help you
as well as you read
this book.
I
commend both the
author and the book
to you, knowing
you will be relationally
stronger as a result.
Don’t just
read the book, though.
Take the questions
seriously; reflect
and put into action
the useful tips
and suggestions.
If you do, you will
be better equipped
to encounter the
relational challenges
life throws at you.
Your most important
relationships are
worth the investment.
Not only will you
survive, you will
thrive.
Keith
Tarry, MDiv
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I have read many
psychological self-help
style books, but
not many provide
the hands-on "this
is how to do it"
approach provided
here. The pathway
to change is outlined
as a journey, not
a quick fix, which
means the reader
must want to pursue
a process, rather
than a formula,
to effect constructive
change. For those
who are able to
assist others with
changes, this book
provides another
set of useful tools
to both evaluate
symptomatic behaviours,
as well as provides
practical steps
that can improve
your intimate relationship
skills.
Not
knowing what to
do has the same
results as knowing
what to do, and
not doing it.
Not knowing what
your options are
is the same as shooting
into the dark hoping
to hit the mark
anyway.
Insanity is, expecting
different results
while repeating
the same thing over
again.
Your heart doesn't
want to be found
out, but your behaviour
inevitably provides
clues to what your
heart actually thinks.
And once you can
name it, you can
change it!
Complex
thought systems
leads to the maze
of behaviours so
eloquently articulated
in this book. Not
only are you presented
with the manifestations
of the thought patterns
behind these behaviours,
but are also challenged
with the "mirror"
to examine your
own behaviour. And
understanding these
things can lead
to dramatic changes,
if you are willing.
Remember - nothing
changes until you
decide. The primary
goal of this book
is to encourage
a constructive move
away from the "insanity"
cycle, and to provide
insight into some
of the barriers
that we face in
making those necessary
changes that make
relationships work
well.
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